It sounds like you are in a good place then. She may need space, but I don't think you should allow her enough space to let her forget that when you get the D, she will still need to deal with living expenses, the house, her responsibilities, her kid.
So, avoid tension, but responsibility.
Oh and about "tricking" your wife? Is it a trick? If you buy into the idea that affairs are addictive and people are not thinking right, then I say it is not a trick. In my case, W is (was I hope!) sleeping with her boss. I know that even if we get a D, this is bad for her. Would I trick her into ending it? You betcha. Eventually she will thank me for it.
We have real problems to be dealt with, but we can't deal with them while there is OM.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
