I think I did ok. I did it to become empowered and let her know I am not going to stand by while she plays me for a fool.
I went to sons parent teacher conference and while waiting to go in she comes up full of solutions: 1. I (LBS) should move to my Dads house 30 minutes away. I say NO you are the one leaving me, You need to move out. 2. She has a friend who just completed a divorce and we can do it uncontested for 500 retainer and 2700 dollars I said - good make that appointment 3. She says I will take probably 50K for the house and get two cars (one is an antique Italian Car we brought from Italy) I can keep my two trucks and the boat I say Fine 4. She says, I am not moving out.. I say yes you are it is my house. She says it is "our" house. 5. I say you need to leave. She again says if she goes she is taking our son, I told her fine. 6. She says what about the dogs? I said you can have them
we go into teacher conf and as we walk out, I tell her "I am serious about you moving out. I want you out. I told her to make a list of stuff she wants and I will make a list also and we will wait until the 29th MC session before telling our son to get some guidance from MC.
I tell her before leaving, You need to leave the house and I want you out.
So that is where we left it.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I understand that and I am going to try to steer her to that conclusion but she is at the moment using him as her emotional crutch/pawn to keep me in the doormat phase, I just gave a little on that point to agree with her so she will have to think in complete terms of our sons welfare also. She is a GREAT mom.. and She is using her desperation because she knows I am an involved Dad.. she is trying to remain in the house.. ultimatly she also needs to face the consequences of being a single mom.. I am not going to "control" her anymore remember? She is a free willed person.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I'm sure you know this and I am not a lawyer, but be VERY careful that you: 1) Don't go on record as saying you don't want your son. 2) Say or DO ANYTHING that could even remotely be construed as threatening or violent.
I do not know the law, but my guess is that you cannot force her out, and if she can find a way to make it sound like you MIGHT become violent, you might be the one out of the house.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
Not from, I sent her text just now with that very same thought. I told her I want her out but my Son will stay until she can show me a safe place for him to live. I reaffirmed my original statement that I will not live in an open marriage and I want her out. She replied back "We are not in an open marriage, we seperated 30 Sept."
I am gonna let the text messages go..
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I hear you.. I evidently shook her up though, she sent me an txt back telling me she is not in an open marriage we seperated on 30 September. So I am leaving that one alone,, I am not trying to argue with her and I dont want the CB.. she is reacting and this is more than I have gotten from her in 2 weeks..
Since I gave her freedom and her space.. why is she digging in so hard and not leaving?
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
