My W is planning on attending a job hunting group (after four months of unemployment) soon. Since she is planning on this, I keep quiet about this issue, and let her go at her own pace. I manage the finances as best I can (the bills get paid, with credit card use for extras like the dog's daycare or unexpected vet expenses).
I'm able to get her out to be social and physically active, but her sleep is still off. She doesn't go to bed until 3AM and sleeps until noon.
It's an adjustment having her out in the dance community. I admittedly miss being a "single" guy in the dance community. It's also difficult because my W is more straightforward with dance feedback than other lady's are.
I'm working on not letting her moods or irritability affect me too much, but I still get reactive too often. I'm realizing that I blame my W for my reactions to her, and that I need to work on calming myself down, avoid judging her or trying to control her, and living life with her more gracefully, regardless of the problems or her state of mind.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
