that is one of the things that I know I have failed on my part, but if I show her that now wouldn't that be me pursuing her?
You and me both!
It does not have to be pursuing. I'm learning that there are ways. The easiest, is simply to listen to her more when you have an opportunity. I mean really listen. Say things like "It sounds like you are saying ......" and "that makes sense". Tone down the hostility, if there is any in your voice. Give her a compliment, when it is merited.
Let me give you an example from my experience. My W always asks for help with work. I'm happy to oblige. She always tells me I know more about her job and that I could do it better than her. Well, I recently tried complimenting her and pointing out that some of the positive things she has done. I can tell her she did a great job on XXXX without pursuing. It show I respect her in an area that has nothing to do with our R. It is easy, it it makes both of us feel good about ourselves. Win Win!
And yes, it WILL be noticed.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
