Back in MLC land again.

Yesterday I suggested to my W that since we are both out near

the school where the kids are, (which is about 1/2 an hour from

our house), we meet at the local custard place for the cheap

meal special. She agreed and we all met and had dinner there.

Now she was angry with me for a communication breakdown over who

was to pick up the kids from school just moments earlier. So

after just remembering what Missherlove said on his thread about

his interaction with his W, I thought what the heck, even though

W is angry with me, I will text her to see if we can all eat

dinner together at the custard place and see what response I get.

She texted back that she will meet me there with the boys.

So then we all are at the table eating dinner and W and I are

talking and she says "You know I wanted to find out if you would

want to go out to dinner on one of these nights" I said "Oh?"

She says, "Yes I don't know what night we can make it happen with

how busy everything is but I would like us to go out because of

you know, what Wednesday is, if you want to that is." And then

she adds, "But I don't want to send any mixed signals."


So I said, "Sure that would be great, maybe next week we can make

it happen."

Translation for all of this? Wednesday is our 20th anniversary.

She did not want the kids, who are sitting on the same table, to

hear from her that she wants to go out to dinner for our wedding

anniversary. Because then, why are mom and dad going out to

dinner for their wedding anniversary if they are getting

divorced?

I just want to point out that MLC=confusion is something that

has to become part of you when you are going through this crisis

with them.

Her mood next week? She probably will forget the whole thing.

She is moving out at the end of next week into her new place,

wherever that is.

Now if she goes to dinner? I will be the same Warrior that I have

always been. Use a little DB here and there and MAYBE have a nice

evening. BUT no expectations, and trust me Eric, I will have no

expectations.