Starsky, I agree with everything that has been said in this thread...
I think there is never and all or nothing answer... Each person has to weigh all the choices and put them into the context of his/her marriage, and only that person knows the thoughts of their own spouse, and whether the exposure would help/hurt their chance of rebuilding their marriage. I am taking the position right now to keep the A quiet because I know it would hurt my chance of rebuilding my marriage because my wife and I are now talking, and doing little things together, and taking some baby steps in a positive direction. I hope this helps...thanks.
