A new Start to a bad ending.

[Coach]

In the quote the marriage was broken without any chance of healing - and while the wife may have learned something, the husband certainly didn't.

No, a man standing up to disrespectful and damaging behavior in a marriage shows he has learned something. Letting someone act against your beliefs and values is harmful to your spiritual, mental, physical and emotional well-being. It's actually very loving to all parties involved to take on stand on behaving the right way. It's also very attractive to women. Womens feelings of love are tied to respect.

Yes, the LBS needs to own up to their part of the failure and do the work on themselves. Valuing and loving yourself enough to have your spouse not carry out an affair in your home that is being financed by you, taking away family resources (time, money, energy, love, attention, affection, sex) is the least that should be allowed. It's not really asking for much. It's not even tough, it's expected by most people. Plus women really want their husbands to fight for them not be docile or compliant with her feelings. She knows she's wrong and wants to her man to take a stand because she matters to him. Woman aren't attracted to men who will let a women run around and not take action. Rewarding or ignoring bad behavior gets you more bad behavior.

Busting the affair is just part of DBing but there is no reconcliation with a OP involved. If you keep reading and watching it becomes very clear what works and what doesn't. I didn't buy into to it at first either. It was part of my work to understand the dynamics between men and women.

A good example of so called "tough love" is in a John Wayne movie called "The Quiet Man" he finds out the nice guy approach isn't attractive. It's when he leads, doesn't put up with her bad behavior and takes action his woman is attracted to him.

Cheers