People will say things like "every situation is different" and yet those same people will be the one's exhibiting "nice guy"/doormat behaviors and continue to allow a spouse to walk all over them, thinking that if they're nice enough, patient enough, allow enough time to pass, their spouse's affair(s) will eventually end and they will want to return home to their left behind spouse. If you believe this, I want you to comb this forums and find me one example of that where it worked. Find me one where it really worked, where the cheating spouse came home, apologized, fell head over heels in love with the spouse they cheated on, came home and made everything better.
didnt that work here originally? then she got it in her heart that cheating on him is OK and did it again? see...
Originally Posted By: Atossup
The last time this W and I had issues I did the wait and see approach and was patient and understanding and she came back. I know her and that works with her
then she got it in her heart that cheating on him is OK and did it again. And its still OK. Ouchy. I guess there is nothing really wrong with letting another person go and find themselves, express themselves sexually, explore what it means to fall in love with other people. We could call it letting them go, right?
"If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were"
But don't neglect to realize that by allowing them to go out and have their fun you have set precedence that sharing them with another boy is OK with you. Now maybe that other boy isn't everything and more and they come back or maybe its just a Mid-Life-Crisis and they need to sow their wild oats and they'll be back when it has run its course. So, if you are open to it why do you belly ache about it? You are allowing it to occur, over and over.
If I was your wife I wouldn't see anything wrong with it. I would have 2 maybe more boys fighting over me. I could get what I want when I want it. And if I was bored I could easily switch boys and see what else I could conquer. Good deal. Keep setting me free, if I keep coming back to you it's must mean we were meant to be.
