That ^^^ is a very good description of detaching.

It is not a tactic it is about getting your life back and out of the drama.

If you have to (and you can) you may need to have no contact with spouse for a while.

I would not describe that as dark either. I always saw dark as the Last Resort Technique (LRT)

Which IMO won't work on an MLCer.

They are not capable of figuring out what's going on long enough to make a rational decision.

Thanks for putting that here Faith.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am