My Situation - any thoughts or ideas

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Ok, next chapter in the story... until a few days ago we were getting along great. Lots of conversations, updates on our days, etc. Not much R talk, but general good conversation. However in the last few days, I've really noticed 2 things.

First, the happier/stronger/more GAL-y I get the more angry, grumpy, and non-talkative she gets. I make polite conversation only and stay upbeat. She gives me one word replies (or just a grunt). She no longer initiates any conversation with me.

Second, I have definitely entered the "button-pushing/testing" phase. Weeks ago I started doing more around the house and more with the kids. Yesterday she tells me how I don't need to do small loads of laundry, but wait for a big load. She is requesting last minute schedule changes with respect to the kids (this was a big deal to me in the past and lead to a number of fights before). She's doing a lot of "I'll just do it" for stuff I've been doing the last few weeks. I feel like I'm getting 2 or 3 small tests a day now.

So far, I have to say that I've done a good job at handling these. I'm polite and receptive and not argumentative in the least.

For those of you that have been here, what do you make of these developments?

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