Originally Posted By: pigskin
Journaling:
In any case, communication and her attitude have definitely gotten better. I just don't think she is "there" yet to try a full reconciliation. But it does seem less of an impossibility than it did just a few short weeks ago. Her stating point blank that she didn't want a divorce is a positive; it may just require some slow steady baby steps from here to get to serious reconciliation discussion.


Reconciliation carries some serious self-examination and some serious self-admission that she screwed up. That's the scary part. She may not ever admit it to you: "I needed that to see just how much you needed to change." It will still be there inside her skull. She knows the damage that she's done to the family and the flimsy excuses that she's based it on.

It's not a fun $417 sandwich to snack on. She's just not ready to face it yet.

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