Well, Blue, he admitted to the affair. I gave him the option of ending it and working on the marriage or leaving. I could not have him in the home any longer if he did not want to commit to the marriage. He chose to go. That's the sad part. He claims the affair has nothing to do with "our relationship - our problems". (Of course he claims that.) He said he doesn't have a problem ending it (so do it!) but it still "wont' fix us" even so. He claims all my faults are what led up to his wanting out and thus having the affair.
I agree with the kids. They are very hurt by all of this already.
