A new Start to a bad ending.

[ArnieBGood]

Co is going to address it with her. I don't accept the explanation at all .

So even though you don't accept it, you feel you have no choice but to accept her continuing to see the OM.

But I can do nothing else but stay away and let the BS play out.

And you have an idea of what this looks like.

Co said it won't last, was an abomination. He said she needs to grow up.

So he has reason for believing that it will somehow end of its own accord.

He also feels that if I go completely dark that her feelings for me will only lesson instead of build with positive interactions. Basically be nice, listen to her actively and let OG fizzle.

And you agree with that.

10 years ago folks out here did not advocate the real tough approach.

Maybe you are under the impression that the only alternatives are "tough" and "nice."

The last time this W and I had issues I did the wait and see approach and was patient and understanding and she came back. I know her and that works with her but I want her to respect our marriage also!!

Perhaps part of you is recognizing that the W&S/nice guy approach has not led to the kind of respect you need.