WAW 20 years and wants out

[Pensacolabroken]

Soleil,
thanks.

will report back after MC tonight.

[Pensacolabroken]

MC this afternoon.

Wife calls and asks if I have son.. she knows I do.. says she is on her way. Gets home and sees me and son ready to go, as we discussed.. she says she needs a moment to get ready and use the bathroom wtc.. so we wait.. and wait.. finally she has everything ready, power pants suit and best purse and shoes. anyways, I am in the detach mood already and have been detaching since Friday.. I am noticing her idiocyncrancies more and more and that she is not a ray of moon beam on white bread..

We drive there.. and she is super nervous.. keeps checking her Cell phone. She downs some Pepto Bismol and is acting like the Ice Queen. VERY LITTLE small talk. We get there and the MC is delayed with another couple.. Wife keeps checking her phone.. Finally MC comes out. meets wife and takes her inside. Entire session devoted to Wife. No idea what the talked about, but I saw glimpses of my wife there.. warm wife, the one I fell in love with.. I maintain my composure. MC says we need to make another appointment and I wont be seen today.. Wife is happily available now to make a MC appointment after she failed to show on the first one.

So we go back 29 Oct. I was going to eject her next week. I may have to wait.. depends on her CB or not. We had a NICE drive home Milkshakes and Fries.. nothing promised or even mentioned just a nice drive.

Not sure if anything penetrated the defenses.. I am getting past the point of caring most moments.

She did agree on her own to make a new appointment and she did. We also have the Harley Emotional needs survey and Sternburg essays to complete.. wife got hers off the printer.. made a snide comment, and I said "you dont have to complete it, up to you". She said "I know and I will fill it out" I replied "do as you like".

Really looking at the faults now as I detach.. going to enjoy my week with my Son and not allow any CB from her.

still sucking...

[Pensacolabroken]

Oh yes and after returning home, ICE queen comes back out. She did however actually say "good night" first time in 3 weeks.. I told her thanks for coming today, she said youre welcome and sorry you didnt get to talk to the MC. I said whatever have a nice sleep.. and opened my cold beer...

[Steve McQueen]

I am noticing her idiocyncrancies more and more and that she is not a ray of moon beam on white bread..

what does this mean?

[Pensacolabroken]

Meaning I am not crying in my beer anymore.. I have been hit with the clue bat.. I want my marriage to work, but I am not letting her get away with anything especially the crap she is doing with this guy and her denial.. I am picking when to tell her to pack her S(*@ and go on John Wayne style.

[Pensacolabroken]

Wow!

Couldnt sleep and started looking at the web pages for Cell phone tracking, SMS reading all the BS.. and it simply came to me.. I said ENOUGH.

I went up stairs to our bathroom that works, and WAW calls my name and asks if the dogs are ok?, I said Yea I am awake and I am waiting to tell you something.

She said um ok.. and I told her I want her OUT. I told her I dont want to live in an open marriage and I am not sharing. She said Neither do I. I told this is not working, and if we are going to be seperated I will be respected. I told her to find a place to go. She asked Why Do I have to leave? I said because you were the one who wants to divorce me. I said you are now free.. Go.. you have what you want. I told her move in with your boyfriend I know you are in lvoe with him. She said he is not my boyfriend, I said enough of the lies stop playing me for a fool. She said I never said you were a fool. I said you have lied to me, you have alienated me and our friends and you are secretive with your cell and all that and I am simply tired of it. I told her I want her out by the end of the month. She then said she was going to take our Son with her. (I didnt bite) I told her to find a place to stay but I want her out.

She is now taking a shower and no doubt trying to figure out WTF?!

[NotFromThesePart]

Its ON.

Good luck. Stay strong, but really LISTEN. She will probably lie, but try to hear what she is saying behind it. By all means stay calm. Do not get angry, do not mind read. Listen and be calm. Make plans. What are you next steps?

[Pensacolabroken]

So Gucci and Robx,

NOW what?

I get the sticking to my guns and I think I am going to get all the drama now, especially if she plays the I am taking our son with me crap.. She is using him as leverage to being allowed to stay here.. I did tell her that we will find a way to tell him but this isnt working for him either...

What would John Wayne do?

I do feel MUCH BETTER.

[Pensacolabroken]

Notfrom,

My plan was to first flush it out and let her know I am done with the BS and I have my respect.

I am going to remain calm and detach. I also am going to go on with the things I discuss yesterday that I was going to do like Sod the Yard.

I have a parent teacher conference today (with WAW) and will go to that. Then I will come home and do what I want to do.. I am not going to engage her for a couple of Days.. I am going to let her come to me.. I have chosen to stay in my house she wants to leave.. I say let her...

now I see her options as this.. LOTS of phone calls today to her "friend" and today IS a Tae Kwondo day... so she will go tonight and they can't pretend they are simply friends anymore.. it is OUT IN THE OPEN. He now will have to accept her and they can work out how they will do whatever they are doing.. he can have her.

this weekend is her weekend.. I am going to enjoy my Son.. unless she cancels her weekend.. then I am still going to njoy my Son...

I finally feel like I am doing something.

[NotFromThesePart]

It is a great feeling to be doing something. But never lose sight of what you are trying to accomplish? What is that exactly? Do you still want to reconcile? If so, under what circumstances would you accept her back? Can you name three concrete steps she could take?

If you don't want her back, what will you do is she comes totally clean, hands you a NC letter she has written to him, quits Tae Kwondo, asks your forgivness and wants to go to C?