Here's my dilemma. If the second lady says yes, I will call church_35 back and tell her I don't feel right going with her since she's seeing someone. I know I wouldn't like it.
The question is what do I do if the second says no -- do I still go since I asked her or do I call and call it off?
I don't want to mess up the church group vibe. I also don't want to be an *ss and insult her.
Wow, I warned ya!!! But this is even more interesting than I'd imagined it would be. OK, if you feel it is not right to go out with another guy's gf, regardless of whether you can get someone else to go instead, then you back out. Morals aren't dependent on whether you have another date or not. Now, how do you tell her? AKWARD!!! If you say you don't feel comfortable going out with someone who has a bf, then you're insinuating she's doing something wrong by saying yes. If you B.S. her then she'll know you're just brushing her off cuz she has a bf and that can effect your R at group...somehow I'm kind of glad I'm me right now and not you, despite the fact that I'm getting a Colonoscopy tomorrow. Btw, I'm the guy that was having coffee with a lady for months, who also had a bf, and it really wasn't one of my better choices in life although nothing happened...it just turned out bad. So,if you're not into the "friend" thing (does her bf know and is he OK with it, I'm guessing not!) then bail. That's the best I can do for you.
Btw, I'm the guy that was having coffee with a lady for months, who also had a bf, and it really wasn't one of my better choices in life although nothing happened...it just turned out bad. So,if you're not into the "friend" thing (does her bf know and is he OK with it, I'm guessing not!) then bail. That's the best I can do for you.