New to this community seeking advice 2

[MichelleLT]

Sometimes I find the best way for me to get in the mood to be around people is just to do it. If I'm around fun people, I find it energizes me. Everyone has a different balance of how much time they want to be alone and with people. I found that I would get depressed if I spent too much time alone because I would spend too much time thinking.

You definitely have come a long way.

These kind of crises are hard, and it's a steep learning curve, but this is a great time to do some self-discovery and personal growth.

You are not passively waiting (I hope). You are giving her time to process what has happened and plan your follow-up (I hope ). There is a fine line between giving enough time (i.e. not expecting changes overnight or in a week) and just letting the change/boundary you want get brushed under the carpet. If you are not consistent, things will go back to how they have been. And actions speak louder than words.

Making the time to see your kids regularly is a great action. Taking care of the medical stuff is a great action.

And taking care of yourself is also great.

Keep doing it. One day at a time.