How to tell the kids

[40andsadintexas]

I guess I haven't made it to the point that I am sure I don't want her back yet, so........

Then make small talk with her, always be happy, lay on the charm, and play hard to get. Have some other girls on a string, have fun, flirt, date casualy, what ever it takes to get you to where you are sure your life will be fine with or without her.
My STBEX behaved so badly this was not an option, the OM1 I still had hope then OM 2 & 3 came along within a week of each other pretty much set me on trac to be finished with her asap I feel now that life will be better without her.
If you still want your wife back you need to get where you will be ok either way, until there are on OM and she sees you slipping away she has no reason to want you back. At least that is my thinking but what do I know I’m going to be divorced pretty quickly some will save there marriage they probably have better understanding of women than I do.