She sends a text in the morning, "How r kids?", afternoon / evening same thing. Now she wants to call everyday to talk to them... I usually respond, "Good" and sometimes let her talk to them. I don't wanna keep her from them, but when she has the kids on her days, I do not bother her or call... I told her I'd appreciate the same courtesy. Sometimes we r doing fun stuff, playing, watching movies, etc. and I don't think it's fair for her to just butt in everyday. Been decent on most days, but deny her on my days with them. Suggestions on that?
You told her what you wanted and she's chosen to ignore you. Why do you feel you owe her a response in those circumstances. It's a simple boundary to understand.
Wrong answer. They are her kids as well as yours. If you do not let her talk to the kids, you are keeping their mother away from them. Let me put it this way...if there were a time you really missed your kids when they're with her, would you want her to not "allow" you to talk to them?
She has equal claim to them even though it may not seem fair. It's not a boundary. It's being petty.
You don't need to talk to her. When you don't call the kids when she has them, that's YOUR CHOICE. They are your kids right? Then why not call them when you want? Unless of course you don't want to talk to them.
She probably has caller ID so if hearing the sound of her voice bothers you so much, then tell her that when she sees your number, to just give the phone directly to the kids.
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Why are all you guys angry about that song? It was a nice song about how close a man and a woman felt to each other. The refrain, "Goodbye my lover, goodbye my friend" barely made sense with the other lyrics that talked about how supportive he was of her, etc. The song is incredibly nostalgic for what they had even if it is now lost. Why greet the song with anger and hostility? Why not say, "yes, we had something good, I will miss it too"?
Did you see the women in the audience, how moved they were by the song? To me, the song says goodbye, but it is really holding on. It is not goodbye, get lost. It is goodbye, let's kiss again....
I carefully listened to the song. While some of it may be ambiguous or even confusing with some clauses saying "I'll be there for you" and also saying goodbye, there is simply nothing in it that is insulting. I found it beautiful and sad. And the lyrics perhaps ought to be printed out before you judge too harshly. Just my take on it. J-
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