I intend to live forever - so far, so good

[ClingingToHope]

Interesting development. Got a call back from Church_35 today. I asked her on Thursday to a "Green Ball" this Friday. As balls go, it's pretty cheap and I wanted to get out this weekend.

Turns out she is seeing someone. That's why she was in Detroit this weekend -- 5 1/2 hours? But she'd be willing to go with me as a friend.

That caught me off guard. She'd never mentioned seeing anyone in the growth group and didn't when I asked her to an event two weeks ago.

I said going as a friend is fine. I just would like to get out there.

I really wasn't prepared for that. Truthfully, I'd rather not go. I know I wouldn't like it if I had a girlfriend in another state going somewhere as a friend.

She called while I was at home. Since coming back to the office, I sent a message to another lady asking her if she'd like to go.

So that's done.

Here's my dilemma. If the second lady says yes, I will call church_35 back and tell her I don't feel right going with her since she's seeing someone. I know I wouldn't like it.

The question is what do I do if the second says no -- do I still go since I asked her or do I call and call it off?

I don't want to mess up the church group vibe. I also don't want to be an *ss and insult her.