I like that Arnie. Should have used it as of now I am dark. I know tomorrow she will want to know what I talked about with Co? What I am going to addresss with him is me moving on. getting unstuck. So that when she goes Thurs he may tell her that I am prepared to move on.
She just called me now. Left a mesaage saying sorry but I need my mini food processer from the house!
Again WTF? She wanted NC now she has it and now she breaks it??
You are fine as is, no need to continue with messages, in fact, don't reply to anything at all, unless it has something to do with the kids if you have any or how to move the D process along faster, you have nothing left to discuss with her.
You did what you were supposed to do, you finally put your foot down, partying with the OM was a clear violation of your boundary and you won't stand for it anymore. I hope she enjoyed the partying, I hope it was worth losing you over it, now you give her a taste of fear of loss, you now you give her a taste of someone calling the shots when it comes to two people, she won't like it, it's ok though, she didn't mind putting you through this crap, let her tread water for a while, see how she likes it when you totally reject her and it's something you have to do, not for a day, few days, a week or so, it has to be for real, she has to realize that you won't put up with that crap behavior anymore.
For you own sanity, not just for your marriage.
You need to realize your self-worth again, you determine how valuable you are, she took you for granted, now she realizes it when it's too late.
