I guess I have been trying to show her that my life will go on and I will be fine without her. I have expressed to her too many times in the past that I would be lost without her in my life and was a blubbering idiot. I am trying to show her that I can move on and take care of myself as well as my kids without any help from her.
In what ways would you suggest that I try to lead?
Once again, Dan, I know where you are coming from.
It's preached that we don't pursue and I find myself at the point of not really caring so much anymore what my W thinks. I can show her I can handle things without her help. At the same time, it would be preferable to make a new, better M with her.
How to lead without pursuing? I interact with her as much as possible when we are together. It doesn't seem to matter. Maybe she's watching and filing it away in her mental rolodex. IDK.
The feedback you're getting makes sense. If you find something that works, please let me know so I can try it!
