Now I'm Walking Away Part 3

[NotCrackingUp]

... to talk about our situation or anything related. He behaves as though the eldest doesn't really exist anymore, and with the others as though the elephant in the sitting room wasn't really there, everything is hunky dory.

They've seen me sad, but I've never avoided any subject with them, been as honest as I can. So they know where they are with me, and they can trust and feel better.

So tell them everything in terms they can handle, don't leave any mysteries, and they'll be ok. That's what I'm trying to do. There are tantrums and tears, but they're calming down. And there's no OP in your situation, so it should be easier for you both.NCU