"Mrs John28, we need to hurry up and finalize this divorce because I have been seeing professor lady, and it's getting serious. I wanted you to know the truth about me being heavily involved with another women because, darn it, I just respect you so gosh darned much".
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I agree she'd probably flip crazy if she found out, but I'll do her the respect of telling her if I feel the need to pursue this. I don't necessarily feel that way right now. If she really doesn't want anything to do with this M and R then I owe her that respect.
No legal rammifications, already checked with the super-b~tch L that I have.
College professor lady friend knows my sitch, mostly... not all the gory details obviously though. Knows I'm not looking to jump in head over heels right now.
I've read this twice, and I'm still confused. You say she'd flip crazy, if she found out. But then you're still going to be involved with this new professor. That's just walking around a gasoline refinery with an open flame.
And the "mostly" in regards to the professor... Something tells me there's a lot left out?
Yeah, but basically if she goes through this legal S I'm completely done. I won't pursue anything until that is done (probably tomorrow). I've told her very clearly that if I have to put ink to paper on this separation I'm 100% done. I'm 99% done right now. She knows where I stand. There is no mistaking it.
I have detached people, and I'm not concerned with making my W jealous. I don't even have the urge to talk to her anymore - haven't for at least two weeks really. Believe it or not, I'm there.
As far as having a healthy R with this other person, I'm not goign to pursue this yet. I don't want to. I'm good with myself right now. But, I do see how I've been underappreciated for years and haven't had my needs met. That doesn't mean I'm going to jump in the sack with the person who might have pointed out a little bit of that.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I agree she'd probably flip crazy if she found out, but I'll do her the respect of telling her if I feel the need to pursue this. I don't necessarily feel that way right now. If she really doesn't want anything to do with this M and R then I owe her that respect.
No legal rammifications, already checked with the super-b~tch L that I have.
College professor lady friend knows my sitch, mostly... not all the gory details obviously though. Knows I'm not looking to jump in head over heels right now.
I've read this twice, and I'm still confused. You say she'd flip crazy, if she found out. But then you're still going to be involved with this new professor. That's just walking around a gasoline refinery with an open flame.
And the "mostly" in regards to the professor... Something tells me there's a lot left out?
I meant if she found out without me telling her she'd flip. If I told her, she's be royally pissed off but she wouldn't flip. That's why I'm waiting until after this legal S is inked.
"Mostly" means I left out the gory details. She knows the timeline, circumstances, and where I'm at. But she doesn't know that for example, my W had at least 3 EAs within the last 6 months. I don't air the dirty laundry.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I hope the professor lady is completely free and single.
What you are playing here is something guys like me won't take lightly.
Months ago my W ran into a guy like that at the bar hitting on her like crazy. He told her all about the terrible divorce deal he's going through justifying his CB.
Thankfully my W "accidentally" dropped her glass of wine on his croach.
That was the day she came clean of all her late night redevoux and gained a lot of respect from me.
Look... I'm not proud to say this, believe me, but when I was in the same place John is right now I took advantage of a few different women.
I used the excuse it was "for self confidence"... But really all I was doing was using someone else to make myself feel better and the whole time I secretly hoped my wife would find out and get jealous.
Whoa......I have missed out on a lot, apparently. My computer has been down so I have a lot of catching up. Just wanted to stick my head in and say hi.
Are you really having feelings for on another lady?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
You say she'd flip crazy, if she found out. But then you're still going to be involved with this new professor. That's just walking around a gasoline refinery with an open flame.
I think everyone here is blowing this a little out of proportion. I'm not dating the college professor. She is interested in me, but I've made clear my sitch. Yes, she is pursuing me. I went to dinner with her one time. Nothing happened.
There just happens to be someone who is interested and pursuing me. I'm not going out of my way saying leave me alone. But I also haven't rushed out to the store to buy condoms just in case.
I just saw that someone found me attractive. That's it.
Last edited by john28; 10/18/1009:35 PM.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
