Move over to Newcomers, you will get more repsonses there starting out.
Your wife doesn't repsect you and isn't attracted to you.
Review what doesn't work -
her affair not bothering you, she needs it to bother you
you doing all the housework
giving in to her attitude
being "more motherly" than your wife
You need to get back into your home, what does it mean to you legally?
You need to get the redecorating to stop, you are paying for it and she is going to get the house.
Thank you for your response but I don’t think being belligerent will help matters. I could go back to my house but that would accomplish nothing but create tension. I could tie her to her bed and make her stop redecorating but that would be … well illegal. I could fight tooth and nail not to give her an inch in the divorce proceedings, but all that will do is tar my family apart even more and make a couple of lawyers richer off of my misfortune.
