Still following your situation. There's something less than logical about your wife's attitude: she says she'll "do anything" to keep you with her, she's willing to ML without "feeling attraction", she's dead scared of being on her own with the girls, afraid of money matters... So why do you think she doesn't want to try thr "retrouvailles" weekend? It doesn't sound like a lot to ask of her if she's so desperate for you to stay. Is this a kind of "group therapy" thing? Is she too afraid of talking about private things in front of others? Have you asked her why she's not interested? Does she know that you'd really like to give it a try? Would it be possible to move out - give yourselves a break and a new perspective - but still aim at trying to get back together and making this weekend a goal? Good luck. It's so hard to feel the love you have for someone crumbling due to their neglect and their turning away. Someone else told you to take a break from budgeting and ruminating on figures. Your W seems unable to think of anything else. Can you take a small break, break the routine before you really do go? NCU
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
