Move over to Newcomers, you will get more repsonses there starting out.
Your wife doesn't repsect you and isn't attracted to you.
Review what doesn't work -
her affair not bothering you, she needs it to bother you
you doing all the housework
giving in to her attitude
being "more motherly" than your wife
You need to get back into your home, what does it mean to you legally?
You need to get the redecorating to stop, you are paying for it and she is going to get the house.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
