IMO, there comes a time when you will really need to determine how long you can tolerate this behavior.
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I have told him that I do not like the anger in the bedroom
Telling and allowing are 2 different things. Your ACTIONS should mirror YOUR words.
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I dont know why I let him manipulate me like this.
You have the answer to this question and it is inside YOU. What you will need to do is really dig for it.
Fear? Codependancy? Insecurities? Lack of a sense of self?
Dig Kissak...dig.
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He did say he was sorry
That is a start. Will you be able to stand your ground when he pushes again? That is the question that you need to answer but will not be able to until you dig and understand WHY you allow this.
Kissak,
Once you start standing up for yourself he is not going to understand. The dynamics of the R have changed and the power of YOU would have shifted from HIM to YOU. He will more than likely rebel. You should be prepared to stick to your values and your beliefs.
This is hard Kissak - it really is.
You many not know this about me but I too was a controlling as*hole. Stand your ground - he will respect you for it at somepoint.
Once you stand for Kissak...
You will really see what you are made of.
It is not easy
It is very scary - can you be alone? can you manage the household? What will your life be like?
All of these questions and fears will surface - face'em. Stare them down. Look up and ask God to give you the strength you need.
And then really begin to work on you. Find who that strong Kissak is AND
Maybe...
Just maybe....
Your H will begin to really work on and FIX his chit
I am praying for you AND your H.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
