Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[HopelessInLove]

Well,
Met with L today and she stated in PA an A has no bearing on the outcome of the D, custody, or finances. That's good to know now. I just wasted time, energy, and mental abuse on myself. Good job HIL. LOL. Now on to next step. I need to protect myself from W getting primary custody of kids. The law in PA states a 50-50 custody. That is if both parents are at least seeing the kids and has them stay with each parent 40% of the time. I am not, the kids stay with me or are in my presence 30% of time according to L. She recommended me moving back into the house. I am moving home tonight. I am putting my kids before my M, I know that, but my kids will be a part of my life no matter what happens with M. I will continue to work on myself and detach but I will follow L advise.

The L also told me that W stands much more to lose in the D than I do. L wants me to wait and not do anything. L told me the W needs to do all the work, either with the M or D. If she wants the M to end then W should move out and she could lose ground on custody for kids. The chips are stacked against W.

I will journal on here to let everyone know how W takes me moving back in and the cousre W takes. Here starts a long road down an unlite path. I will look here for advise and opinions.

Thank you in advance and for the strength all have imparted on me. I feel that having been on here has helped me to prepare for myself.