Not only is he trying to scare you but more importantly HURT YOU. PUNISH YOU. for what you did. That is why you need to go dark and let him come to you or run away. Regardless, it's his choice. You have your choice to WORK on YOU.
True about the mortgage. Your attorney is a clown if that's what he/she told you. He is definitely liable for everything. Only way that would be true if YOU solely owned it BEFORE you were married. Even then a judge could decide that you are both responsible because that person has been living there for awhile.
Again. YOU dont have to agree to anything he says. That is for the court and judge to decide. Especially if he is just trying to "Get Back" at you.
Time to stop the pity party and stand up for yourself.
You need to give him time to GROW UP and realize that MARRIAGE takes WORK. People make mistakes but if you have a partner that is willing to WORK on it then it's your OBLIGATION to try.
Until he gets to that point you will NEVER be able to CONVINCE him.
Again. Take back CONTROL of the DYNAMIC of your R/M. Stop all contact. Have your attorney write up all the MARITAL LIABILITIES so everyone is on the same page.
