Hello to all. I do not remember how to start a new thread and what topic do I use? In any case, the party went well and Brian proposed to his girlfriend. My wfe was happy for them. My wife was very distant to me at the party and did not offer to help at all. She initially told me that she would not stay long but was the last to leave. She said the party was fun and well done but did not feel at ease around my family. Yesterday my wife stopped by the house to pick up some of her winter clothes and some left over food. She then called me later in the day and said she needed to speak with me. I was told that she had been in touch with her lawyer and wanted to come up with a settlement agreement and wanted us to push forward with the divorce process. My wife said she did not feel she could stay with me because of the things that were said about her by my mother. This happened a week ago when my mother had approached my 15 year old daughter. I had gotten very angry with my mother at the time in front of my daughter. In any case, she also wanted the balance of her equity to the house and she would sign the title to me. She then started to complain about her living in an apartment and how things are difficult for her. She then said she wanted spousal support in the range of 8-13 years in amounts from 500.00 -750.00 dollars per month. She wanted me to pay for her car payment/insurance/daughters ballet lessons. She said she was entitled to these things. I just listened and told her that I would need to think over things and left the her house. I then several hours later received a call asking if I felt she was asking for a lot of spousal support. I said I thought her ranges were very broad and that I needed to retire in the future. She will already get half my retirement and all the equity in the house. I assumed all the debt. She then got very nasty on the phone with me and she hung up on me. This morning she called several times and I did not take the calls. She finally called my work and asked how I was and if I would be driving our daughter today. She asked a few other questions related to family and acted very normal and said take care. Needless to say MLC= Confusion. Bobby O
My wife was very distant to me at the party and did not offer to help at all.
This is typical Bobby. IMO, this is her boundary. She does NOT want to give you any hope.
Does this change what Bobby will do for Bobby?
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I was told that she had been in touch with her lawyer and wanted to come up with a settlement agreement and wanted us to push forward with the divorce process.
Make sure that you secure good council and let her do all of the work.
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My wife said she did not feel she could stay with me because of the things that were said about her by my mother.
Just another excuse Bobby. This is the “justification” she needs. This Bobby is why we say to keep your mouth shut. Do not give her a reason to be angry or pissed. If this is something that she wants, then let her own it.
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She said she was entitled to these things.
She feels that she is entitled to everything Bobby. Get used to it.
What ever you do…say nothing! Do not agree or commit to nothing.
Bobby, I hope that this does not go legal on you and if it does….do not feel that all hope is lost.
Right now, you need to remain focused on YOU and what YOU need for YOU.
She can ask for the moon and the stars – it does not mean that she will get it.
I suggest that you sit down and write down what you can live with and what YOU think is fair. I would not share it with her but would share it with your Attny.
Hey Bobby, does any of this change what you are going to do for you?
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
