Hey PH, I wish u the best things will work out in some way. I'm moving to a new place next month. It might be a new start for me it will be busy as usual with,work, the move and school which is rough this term. My stich is no different than before except W & I are talking more not that it matters. My S is excited about the new place. So enjoy the time with your D's as it seems u always do. Well takecare H!
Just because you sometimes "feel" a certain way doesn't make it so... Feelings change..
Quit worrying about this "detached" nonsense..(I'm detached, I am not detached, I thought I was detached, I now am detached, I guess I am not detached...) That is all silly self talk that will get you nowhere fast. ACTION speaks. Doesn't matter what you feel or think.. Just follow your plan and keep emotionally disciplined.
You're right on the money. I've spent too much of my life making decisions based on my feelings/urges at the time. Discipline and patience.
5K went really well. Realizing that races can become addictive. There's another run in Nov that I might do, but brrrrrr! It's going to be cold by then.
W was angry last night when we went to bed. We had gone over our budgets, and she's upset about how little money we'll have when I move out. And the idea of selling the house didn't sit very well. So she was pissed off when we went to bed. This morning she had calmed down, and was trying to be nice.
Going to turn in my application for the apartment today, and start trying to figure out what I'll really need in furniture and all the other living crap you need.
I seriously think that she has a mental block about money right now. Can't think about our relationship clearly at all. She said that she can't separate her feelings for me from her feelings for the "family" meaning the girls. She spoke about how hard it was growing up with her dad's on again off again employment, how having to leave their dream house after 2 years was horrible.
So now she has to contemplate leaving her own dream house. I foresee spew and drama.
When I mentioned Retro to her, in her sister's hometown to boot, there was absolutely no reaction. No desire at all to work on US. I really think the marriage is dead.
Yeah, a lot of mind reading in there, I know...
Last edited by pinhead; 10/18/1003:33 PM. Reason: mindreading is fun if you're stupid or drunk. Not so much on a Monday
I can't imagine how hard it is to look at her everyday? Oh yes I can!! When I moved out for 6 months from my 1st W, (she asked me to) It was tough. Paying for the house and an apt. Finally I said screw this, I'm paying for the house, I'm moving back in. And I did. It was hell. Seperate rooms, I had to watch as she built her "hope chest" of stuff to move with. She was bitchy and angry at me. Fianlly I helped her move and as I went back to give her something that was left in the car she was already on phone with BF! So I know what yoyur going through. Hang tough for your girls..
