Yeah John, you are all over the place dude. You haven't even given yourself time to calm down from the recent craziness with your wife and now you're all about this other chick.
You just went from the rock to the hard place.
CALM.
DOWN.
I'm getting a vibe from you that you are more concerned with making your wife jealous than actually having a healthy relationship with this new woman, and that is a terrible, terrible thing to do and will only backfire.
I'm also willing to bet that this new girl has no idea how crazy-ass attached you are to your wife. How you would drive to her house if she didn't say I love you back to you... And this was pretty recent.
You are opening a WHOLE NEW can of worms here dude.
