Ok, I've not posted for a while, but things are pretty much the same. Each time I've tried a Robx talk, crap behaviour has been introduced.
So far,she has threatened to hit me, Call the police on me, throw me out,make me sleep on the couch, call me disgusting names, tell me how this is all my fault ie what a crap husband i've been, take the kids out of the country, take me to the cleaners etc.
When I tell her that she was the one who decided to end the marriage, she throws it back in my face, how she struggled and tried to make it work for 2 years, how this is all my fault
I think I'm still being way too accomodating, I even threw a small party for her birthday, which wasn't even appreciated that much but she is still happy to call me mean and nasty. She then starts crying and that makes me become Mr meltyman. She also throws in a lot of nasty little snide remarks at various intervals.
The only progress, if you could call it that is when she tried to get me to sleep on the couch, I told her no way, and that she could go if she wanted to, she ended up staying in the bed. Not that anything ever happens in there aside from her trying to cuddle me occasionaly.
I'm not even sure that going out and socially interacting with other women would change anything, in fact she says she doesn't care. I'm am also reluctant to do this as I fear it will lead to an open marriage.
Aside from the one indescretion there is no evidence of any OM, I've been monitoring email and Cell phone records and she doesn't go out a huge amount, not to mention the fact that she has let her appearance go a little. She has also stopped spending lots of money and has become far better mother.
She still has this idea that we should be swapping between her apartment and the family home, I just feel powerless in this situation. It's very difficult to act happy and positive when she seems absolutely fine. I really don't know what to do here. Nothing seems to be working.
