I have been asked to start a new thread. I am not sure why since I do not think my sitch will change much and I am in a good phase in regard to detaching.
I basically told my STBXW that if she wants a D that she needs to retain the L and process the paperwork herself. That was three weeks ago and I have not heard from her since. Either she has done that or she still wants me to hold her hand or most likely wants to me to pay for everything...who knows and I really do not care or give a _ _ _ _! I guess I will once I find someone whom I am compatable with and want to rid myself of this sitch, but for now I am not ready for that...finding someone that is.
I have considered it and even interviewed a few L all but one suggested that I let her file and do all of the dirty work. If she hasn't filed yet it is because she wants me to so that she does not have to spend $$.
No hurry. We do not haved anything tied up together anymore. I have been given a lot advice here to file then to let her file that I finally listened to my L, which told me to let her file.
Hurt, I understand hwo frustrating this is. She says she wants out but won't file. Anyone would go back in that kind of limbo. You should do what you want to do.
We have both been dark since she left. My W is better at it than I have been. I did pursue some, but have stopped since I have been on this site. Most of my emails that I received from W have been about a D nothing about her possible confussion. My assumption is that she does not want to spend the $$ on a L and wants me to file. Unfortunately, I did everything for her while we were together. She worked and went school, but I paid the bills, helped her with her school editing papers, etc. So she is not use to making BG decisions or spending large amounts of $$.
I am not really all that frustrated. I want her to make the move and grow up! Once I decide to see other people and possibly find the right one and if she has not made the move then I will.
I have not heard from STBXW and I really do not care if I do. I actually joined one of the dating sites and went out on a few dates the last couple of weeks. Nothing serious and I admit that I am not ready for that so I tell them up front so not to set any expectations. But it is nice to have conversation with the opposite sex, plus dinner and a movie.
