WAW 20 years and wants out

[TimeHeals]

also can someone explain "piecing" please?

If your wife is involved with some other man, and she is thinking about him, then there's no danger that you are going to be "pieceing" any time soon.

You cannot rebuild your marriage while it is actively falling apart.

First the falling apart (chasing or thinking about OM) has to stop, then she has to commit to your marriage, and then we can talk about piecing.

Piecing doesn't happen until both spouses commit to trying to make the marriage work.