M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
I was dark again - and she called me this evening now to let me know she was ordering something for me. I'm really confused now. Just a few weeks ago when I was chasing/pursuing her she was getting angry and wanted nothing to do with me. I think I've got to be really careful right now not to chase again. Right?
that is correct. she will be testing you. hold your ground.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
KEM, the DB coach asked me to identify what of my actions brought me closer and what took me further from my H. You've found an answer here. Leave W be. Let her move back to you. Her contact shows you that she is seeking you out. Respond to her contact but no more. Good luck
Echo Cas look at what you do when your W starts contacting you.. NC is hard but you have to do it for yourself and your saniety treat it like a bonus if it gets your W's attention, if you start chasing and pursing WAS's they feel caged and usually react badly back..
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Just an update. W called and I let it go to voicemail. Didn't even know she left a message until later as she never leaves messages. Message said something like "I know you probably have plans but if you get a chance to call or text me back please do." Huh? I have not communicated at all with her today. Actually, spent a great day with my daughter and didn't even really concern myself with anything else. I may be completely wrong about positive signs, but at least I'm GAL. I feel bad not contacting her, but thought it was best cause if I did I knew I would just be weak.
So, after not communicating with W again - she text and called this morning (I didn't answer)- mainly about missing our D3. She will have her this coming week. I still feel bad about not responding to her, but if I start I might lose my confidence and start pursuing all over again. Don't know if I should 'lighten' up some - maybe invite her to lunch this week. Since she will have D3 the next few days, maybe I should wait and see if she contacts me while she has D3. Hmmmm...
I wouldn't lighten up yet. She isn't truly pursuing you yet, she is interested but not worried yet that you have moved on. So keep detaching and keep doing what works...this is working...but you still have a ways to go so keep it up
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
But today she suggested that we were not going to be back together.
How do you respond when she makes statements like that?
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My W calls and texts me at various times to check to see how I am doing.
I suggest that you stay too busy to answer all those texts and calls. You need to become a more interesting person. It sounds like your M became dull or boring to her. Also, whenever the sex life is not fulfilling....then there is usually a problem.
Is the C pro M? If not, then you need to drop the C b/c it will do no good with a WAW.
What is she so angry about?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
