Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[TimeHeals]

The only thing that worked for me with the mind reading was to bluntly state, "No, that is not what I am thinking or feeling, and I am getting a little tired of having somebody tell me what I think and feel".

Then I went dark for a while, and she called and called, and then we had the "why exes cannot be buddies" speech.

From there, things have been rebuilding. It's not easy stuff, but you have to remain grounded, stand up for yourself and what is right, and you have to KNOW that you are going to be better off by yourself than being married to somebody who is not committed to the marriage.