Amen to all of the above! I don't regret No Contact or Filing for D. I don't know how it works in your states but a full D here takes over a year. This certainly gives the chance for the fantasy to start wearing off in the A, doesn't it? My H tried to get me to agree to a disillusionment. No way was I going to give him a quick and cheap way out! Right now, everything is frozen. He's painted himself into a corner and there's no way out for several months at best. Once the D starts moving forward, things might change a little.
Jin, Stay strong! Once again, I feel I'm right there with you. This NC (for me it's only S related - all other correspondence has to go through L) has allowed me to feel a tremendous amount of strength. I see you are gaining it too! I know you are a beautiful person, inside and out. Surround yourself with people who know that as well.
Keep up the great work!
Me:38 H: 45 OW:34 S:4 Bonus S: 12 and 16 2nd M for both Together 12 yrs M: 6 EA suspected: 5/10 confirmed: 7/2/10 Separated: 8/12/10
