Thanks pinhead, I really need some sobering, blunt words. For some stupid reason, I cannot make myself stand for myself when its about H. I have to push myself to become angry and really pi***d off.
Seems my H is doing excellent job pi***ng me off, as he just sent DD to bring him his cap and gloves too
Sky
The reason why you need the blunt words is easy and understandable...looking at your signature, we've been with him since you're 20s? I'm imagining that doesn't count dating, so you've been with him since you were a young woman...you grew up together. That makes is so hard and it is understandable.
During my time of separation ( was was separted 2 years before even filing for divorce and then it took a year for the divorce to be final ) what helped me the most was thinking about what I deserved in a relationship and what was broken in my relationship w/ my EH. It was during that time that I realized how I felt (with him being gone) how I no longer felt like I had the world on my shoulders. I felt relief.
What have you been feeling like being alone? It's ok if there is feelings of longing to be back together, allow yourself to feel that. Also think (and put workds t0) about what else you're feeling too.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
