Beatrice, The mlcer does believe that a divorce will wipe the slate clean and they can start anew. They do forget one thing...divorce makes things a bit difficult when attempting to start anew. They tend to forget that not only are they attempting to wipe the slate clean by leaving us and cutting all ties, but that they have also made every attempt to leave their pasts behind...it can't be done entirely....they don't realize that for a very long time, if ever.
The slower ones do tend to mull over divorce for a very long time. They will drag their feet and say that we are the ones holding up the process. When they do finally do something about a divorce, so much damage has happened, thaty they do not think it can ever be made right once again.
Bottom line, these divorce seeking folks do not ever stop and think that if they work hard enough at the situation, it can be repaired, nor do they want to look within and figure out that the problem is within themselves.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
