I struggle with the dating issue myself and there is no one right answer but it seems to me you are still early in your situation to be getting out that way. As long as you feel yourself on the rollercoaster, and particularly if you are breaking down around other people, you probably want to focus on detaching a little bit more.
You sound like you will be a great catch when you do decide to date and there's really no hurry IMO. Last thing you really want to do is use someone else as a crutch to get you through the tough times, it will only prevent you from getting the full benefit of the learning experience you're going through and really complicate things.
