I don't really feel it is 'my' thread you know. just somewhere for people to drop in. Which is to say, all welcome, as long as we play nicely in the sandbox {which we do]
FWIW I think that MLC is a good forum to be in even post divorce. We understand each other, all having been in the same boat, and for too long.
I do think many MLCers feel the divorce wipes the slate clean. There seem to be two basic approaches in MLC to divorce. One is to go for it as soon and as quickly as possible, and 'move on', but continue to do strange things that no person who simply wanted to end their marriage and start over with someone else would contemplate.
The other type of divorce seems to happen quite a bit later in the crisis, although the MLCer may well have been talking about it for a good while. I think they want to feel an end to the guilt and conflict, and instead of working on themselves they seek yet another external fix. What do others think? My h has actually said that he thinks that once we are divorced we could start over . . . . which is strange thinking to me. I was being argumentative, which isn't wise with a MLCer, but we are only human after all, and said I did not see it that way. Divorce ended any legal right that he might have to contact me, and that it was a high risk strategy. There was a lot of silence after that.
