Waiting for her to come to her senses, when she faces no consequences for her waywardness? That's called LIMBO, as well as DOORMAT, and also sometimes referred to as being a SUCKER.
Trust me, JS,
You don't want to live in Limbo. I've been in the deluxe limbo suite for 4 months, and the room service sucks.
Why can't you change your mind? She's obviously changed hers...
And you don't "tell her I want her out of the house if she wants to leave. You tell her you want her out of the house because you won't put up with her behaviour. By waiting until the 6th you're giving her three weeks to abuse you.
I see where your coming from but I think I am doing the right thing by sticking with the original agreement. If I keep changing my mind I come across as nuerotic and a mess. I want to try to be above this as possible. In the mean time she gets to stew in her problems while I do my best to have fun, be happy, work on my 180's, and chill with my son.
I am fairly certain she is. Shes looking for all sorts of spiritual help online when I am not around.
She's also day dreaming alot about the kid she likes. SO who knows.. I think a better description is she appears to be very conflicted based on her behavior that I have observed.
If you're going to stick with your timeline, do your best to detach. This is going to be very hard when she is pursuing her EA right under your nose.
Don't obsess about what she's reading, who she's seeing or talking to and where she's going. Don't mind read. This is going to be a real challenge. It is at the best of times but especially when things are as raw as they are for you right now. I wish you the best.
We actually had a very good day. She noticed some of my 180's and she saught me out a few times to ask me what music I was listening to. Musics a huge thing for her since shes an aspiring musician and one point of contention with her and me. Shes always said she hates that we cant connect about it. One of my 180s is instead of asking her about her music which never worked in the past is to find music I like that she might like and just get her to assk me about it.
Some stuffs working...
At least we're talking some now and we joked around some today to.
One of my 180s is instead of asking her about her music which never worked in the past is to find music I like that she might like and just get her to assk me about it.
Fixed that for you.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
