First try to avoid doing anything that'll put your daughter in the middle of a bad situation. Her loyalties are already torn, so you need to be mindful of that.
Next, get some boxes and pack up all his stuff. Tell him that he has 5 days to pick it up, or it's getting donated to Goodwill.
After that, don't contact him at all except through a good lawyer.
Then start rebuilding your life and self-esteem. We call that GAL. Maybe your husband will grow up, but based on his previous behaviour, I wouldn't hold my breath.
