Some update: just minutes ago DD came to me with H's jacket in hand, ask me if this is his formal winter uniform jacket. Said yes... it turned out he was waiting for her in front of the house entrance to meet with her and to bring him jacket. She sat in his car and they left, don't know where. Neither she told me she is going to meet with him after all. She is 22 so he makes arrangements with her completely excluding me, and she doesn't tell me she's going to meet him. As if I don't exist at all, and that hurts badly.

So now, seems he has new tactics, completely ignoring me and asking DD to take little by little of his stuff from our apartment.

I am sure now I have to pack all his stuff and let him take it, to protect myself from further hurt, and to take a stand. That would be a 180 for me. What I'm still not clear about is how to approach it - should I tell him I'm not going to tolerate his behaviour, or should I just tell him that I packed his stuff and please arrange to pick it either in person or have somebody take it for him (as he is avoiding to come over by all costs). I am afraid that he might tell DD to take stuff for him and I want to avoid it.

What do you say?

Sky

Me:48
H:48
M:23, T:27
DD 24
Bomb 1 07/27/10,IDLY,moved out without notice while I was at funeral
Bomb 2 09/30/10, "I can't return home, I want D"
Found out OW in picture since 07/09
D'd: 04/01/11