"W, I really am sorry you feel that way, it sounds awful, like no fun at all. However, I can't have you talk to me the way you are talking to me. And I am going to the next room to watch D5 dance now. I would be happy to TALK later with you about what's bothering you if you like."
Nicely done. The results were perfect.
Originally Posted By: bustorama
I think I am getting what you are suggesting? Given that I have clearly apologized, and she knows I am remorseful, I can VALIDATE and and continue to behave well, but if I apologize every single time she brings it up that I am relieving her of her role and responsibility to confront/process her own feelings? Is that part of your point?
Yes
Are you relieving her when you are apologizing? Not really. She's going to feel whatever and whenever she wants. Your actions are the only thing that will really show her you are sincere anyway. She has a decision to make as to whether she can trust you. You made the decision she CAN trust you by how you are working on yourself to be the best Busto ever. Does saying sorry over and over seem necessary to you?
You're doing a good job. Keep doing what is working.
