Bustorama-Thread 1

[bustorama]

She's looking for holes in your new armor and will keep looking. You need to stand up for yourself and tell her you will not be talked to that way. Then walk away and communicate with her at a later time. DO NOT use your past mistakes as an excuse for her treating you poorly. This will make her lose respect for you.

This was relevant again this AM. Did my morning long run with running group. Met W and D's at D5's dance class. W was in a super foul mood and super crabby. Said she felt awful. Started laying into me all angry almost yelling that I didn't really care about how she felt, that she hated it when someone said stuff like they were sorry you felt that way when you know they aren't really. I looked at her and said, "W, I really am sorry you feel that way, it sounds awful, like no fun at all. However, I can't have you talk to me the way you are talking to me. And I am going to the next room to watch D5 dance now. I would be happy to TALK later with you about what's bothering you if you like."

Watched D5 for awhile. Came back and she was calmed down. Said she felt overwhelmed with the stuff that needed to be done to get girls to soccer game. I said How can I help. She requested some things. I pitched in. We cooperated, got to soccer game, had good time there.

Anyway, later in day, she calls me up and invites me to sushi with her and girls. I said I was busy doing stuff around the house, then I reconsidered and said, sure it'd be fun to hang out. She said it's not the same without [my pet name] there. I get there and she seems all chipper, said she has decided to be happy. So we have a nice dinner, do our usual sake, laughs. At one point, girls were being goofy/borderline misbehaving. I was chuckling. She said, the old [pet name] would never have laughed at this (I was real irritable with girls, big issue with her). I cocked an eyebrow at her and said, like what you see? She said, yeah. We went to toy store after that with girls and they picked out a couple of trinkets. Fun time.

While I was driving us back to our car, my W started saying she wanted a dog. Said if we got back together, what did I think about getting a dog. I said I'd love to have a dog with her, maybe two. She nodded.

She starts talking about the people at her work, telling funny stories. Then she tells me some of them have been seeing an old psychic lady. She says everything the psychic has said to her in her life has come true so far (other people being fired, certain people dying, etc.). That she trusts her and she helps her (sort of sounds like a therapist type relationship). So, I guess the psychic has repeatedly told her that her H (me) still loves her very much. That W has a decision to make, has to decide. Then W started showing me some funny videos on her facebook via smartphone. (more life sharing stuff).

I told her I was going spinning in the AM and she said she would meet me there.

From yesterday to today -- must be tough to be in her mind and have these swings.