Bustorama-Thread 1

[bustorama]

I would agree with your plan to apologize for the EA when she brings it up for now. If she continues to throw it in your face then you'll need to talk about agreeing to leave the past where it is and move forward.

Yes, got it. This thing last night was a bit of an aberration cause she hadn't voiced anything angry to me about the EA in over a month. She has said stuff gently about being scared to be vulnerable again. I don't consider that CB, right? Those are her feelings, which I validate.

FWIW, I think it's good to apologize and ask for forgiveness. BF didn't do that directly for a long time and I was very angry and upset about this. In fact, it's one of the reasons that I still question our R and do not feel like we are reconciled. I'm not suggesting that you go melty man on your W, but do make sure to clearly ask for her forgiveness if/when she feels the time is right. Once. Then don't bring it up again.

Yes, I understand. I did finally make a clear apology to her the first time she brought it up post-separation. I failed and was defensive earlier on. I imagine that's a component of her residual anger and hesitancy to consider reconciliation now. Last night was the first time I came out and asked her to forgive me as part of the apology. So, I do feel now like I have clearly apologized and asked for forgiveness. Given that I can still validate her feelings and not accept CB.

Overall I think you're on the right path. Focus on you, GAL, quietly work on being the best Busto you can be.

Thanks!