I haven't posted in a long time. I also haven't gotten replies since my last post.
Anyway, I still want my W back but her position is the same. I met with her twice in the early summer to discuss some financial matters and for her to pick up some stuff. I have been dark since except for a couple of phone calls and an email.
Sometimes I feel I should give up on the M. I think about dating etc, but I guess I am not quite ready. I don't have that constant feeling of desperation anymore, but I still get moments of intense sadness. Truthfully, this DB stuff isn't showing me anything.
Both of our birthdays recently passed. My 40th came first with no contact from W since. I didn't really expect it, but it was still disappointing.
Her BD came a few days ago. I wanted to call or email, but after seeing negative reactions to my overtures for Valentine's Day and our anniversary I decided it was best not to contact her.
Does this stuff really work for more than a handfull of couples? If so, how long? I think maybe DB works better/faster for those who stay in the same area and especially those with kids. My W can't see that I'm in better shape, have cleaned up the yard, not as stressed about work, etc.
