Thanks Mystik, I always appreciate the encouragement, it's needed.
Well today, what a great day with the boys!
But of course my wife chimes in....I get a text this morning saying it's time to take this to the next level and file, I ignore it, I was with the boys.
I get another a few hours later, asking if they had fun, I ignored that also.
This is from a lady that hasn't texted or talked to me in weeks.
So I get another saying she won't allow me to have the boys if I don't answer, did I leave town, get into a accident?
I just texted back we had fun.
That started a barrage of texts saying she has no more feelings for me, happy to be alone and every other thing she could think of to try and get a rise out of me.
So maybe I'll get papers, maybe I won't....not even sure if it matters, she certainly hates me right now.
Still dark.
I would document that threat, it is a threat, and let her know that you've documented everything she's done so that when you go to court they can see what kind of parent she is. She doesn't determine if you get to have custody of your children, the court will decide in the best interests of the children and fathers are getting joint custody if they show they want it, you should like a pretty good dad, I don't think you'll have any problems getting joint custody.
Tell her straight, that she is only to contact you about specific matters concerning the kids (things they may need, doctor's appt's, school, purchases, etc.), she doesn't have to worry about if the kids are having fun with you, that is your job to take care of when you have them, not her's. She can call to speak with them and you can set up a specific time for her to do that.
And than.... start going out and getting a life.
Stop pursuing her and bringing up relationship talk.
Hi ABG, thanks so muchfor the post, I did feel that I had to answer that text, truth is she resembles my wife, but doesn't act like her. Could I see her calling the cops? I don't know, anything is possible, so I let her know we had fun.
We haven't talked/texted/emailed for weeks so I didn't expect one today.
Everything else you said makes sense, sometimes it's hard to see when you are experiencing it, I need to work on myself more.
Thank you again.
Last edited by Lostinlife; 10/17/1001:36 AM.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
I would definitely reply when it comes to the kids. You can say something like, "Thank you for your concern, but we are fine and having fun." Again, anger isn't always a bad reaction from W. I wouldn't do the things that cause the anger, but you weren't doing anything wrong. I would say that as long as she is involved with OM it will difficult for her to detach and reattach to you until it passes. Keep working on yourself - she is noticing any changes - even if she doesn't admit it to you. Take the advice that works best for you. Everyone here has good intentions and will try to help the best they can.
Dropped the boys off, we went to Hershey today to see Chocolate World,on the way home the little boy wanted to go back to Daddy's home. The older boy wanted to know if we'll all be together for Christmas
Just smiled and thanked her for picking the boys up, she had the standard miserable look, and didn't respond.
Gave the boys a hug and kiss, and sent them home with their goodies. This doesn't get easier.
Thanks robx, you are right.
Kem, thanks also, you are 100% on the money.
Back to dark.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
